The question rarely shows up in church. It shows up at 3am, at a red light, folding laundry that still smells like someone. There are actually two questions hiding inside it — and only one of them you can ever answer.

When someone you love is grieving, you want to help. So you say, “Let me know if you need anything.” And then you wait. And they never ask. And slowly, without meaning to, you disappear. It’s not that you stopped caring. It’s that you didn’t know what to do — so you did nothing.   […]

Most people have never heard of a grief strategist. They’ve heard of therapists. Counselors. Support groups. Coaches. But a grief strategist? That’s new. So let me tell you what it is, how it’s different, and why I do what I do. It starts on a sofa. Seven Years on a Counselor’s Sofa Before my divorce, I […]