I was sitting in my doctor’s office, still numb from losing Jeremy, when she slid a prescription across the desk.
“This will help,” she said.Â
I didn’t have the energy to argue. I filled it. Brought it home. Took one dose.
And the moment it hit my system, I knew. This wasn’t help. This was a shutdown.
I could feel my edges softening — in a disappearing fashion. Like someone was turning down the volume on everything that made me, ME.
I never took another pill. Not because medication is wrong. But because I knew — in my gut, in my spirit — that wasn’t my path.
It’s Not About Doing It Wrong
This is what I know:Â It’s not about doing it wrong. It’s about taking your pace and tuning in to who you are.
We all need to feel and we all need to hear. And then we determine the best fit.
When we tune in instead of comply, we can tap into the Spirit who guides us through it — if we let him.
He always allows us to choose. He just helps us make fewer mistakes when we listen.
Forged in the Fire
My relationship with God was forged in the fire. Every time I deviate toward cultural practices — medication, stages, timelines — it takes me out of discerning and processing spiritually.
So I learned to trust what I was hearing.
Maybe you’ve felt that pressure too — to medicate, to follow the stages, to grieve on someone else’s timeline.
And maybe, like me, you knew in your gut: That’s not my path.
You Were Made for This
Here’s the truth: You were made to be an individual reflection of God’s nature.
Not a copy of someone else’s healing or a textbook case. Not a cultural checklist.
Your grief is yours. Your path is yours. And the Spirit of Truth will guide you if you let Him.
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— Deborah
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